Tuesday, August 26, 2014

In case you were having a bad day

This isn't so much a post on how to loose weight, as much as it is a post on how depressing it is when you realized you gained weight (run on sentence). On Saturday my brother in law got married and I had the honor of being a bridesmaid in their wedding. Well, I saw some of the pictures this morning and wow! It looks like I'm still pregnant!! I am by no means one of those women who will say, oh but i just had a baby. Although that is a legitimate thing for some people. However, I have proven with Jed that I am perfectly capable of not gaining a ton of weight while i'm pregnant. As it is, I became a size 6 after i had him. I don't think that a size 6 is big by any means but I was a size 2 when I got married. Now I'm a size 11 (wow, it hurts to type that). Being a size 11 is not a horrible thing. But it is  a lot of extra weight for someone my size. I have recognized that everyone is different and comfortable at a different size. So when tiny girls say they can't believe their a size 4, I no longer get offended. I just recognize that, thats not where they want to be. weight is something I have always struggled with. I was a bigger girl in middle school and very tiny in high school. Mostly do to poor eating habits, and a lot of exercise. It has never been easy for me to just be thin. I gain weight just looking at food.

I struggle with not wanting to be ruled by food. On one hand I want to practice self control and be able to recognize that food is just that, food. On the other hand, I don't want to be the person turning down birthday cake because they can't stand to gain the calories. Don't you hate going out with those people? However, as much as I want to be "one of the people". I have come to a place where I realized that I might just need to watch everything I eat. Mostly, because I'm tired of being able to rest my laptop on my stomach. Weight loss, like everything else in my life, needs to be organized. Part of the reason I have gained so much weight is because my life is a complete mess! Having to move and then thinking about moving again in a few months drives me crazy. But, I can't really stand around waiting for life to fall into place to make a perfect schedule. I realized that I just have to take it a day at a time. I have heard that the best thing is to start with goals. So my goal for today is to come up with some sort of work out schedule that I can do and just stick with it. I also need to figure out an eating plan, because just saying I'm going to start "eating healthy" isn't really cutting it.

And to prove that I'm not making up the weight gain, I leave you with a very depressing picture of myself. Oh, and someone asked me if I was pregnant last week. So theres that. In case you thought I was joking. I almost forgot about that. I think my psyche was blocking it out. And seriously who does that?! To make the situation worse they said they were just shocked because i was so thin in high school. I just said, excuse me while I go throw up. Now, I can't blame them after seeing this....


Oh, and all comments stating I'm not fat will be given a look of haughty derision.

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Life changing

It's been almost two months since Benjamin's passing and I can't say that it hurts any less, than I did the first day. I can say that i don't burst into tears everyday, I don't hate the thought of having another child, and it's getting easier to hear his name. I had hoped that Benjamin passing would change just one persons life, that it wouldn't in my mind be "in vain". I have since learned that God's plan is never in vain. That although I can't know his purpose, I can trust in His plan. I have also learned that Benjamin has changed a life, mine. It has truly been life changing to loose my son. I have thousands of regrets that are resolved only in forgiveness by God. I regret not taking more pictures, not journaling my pregnancy, taking for granted what a blessing pregnancy is. Those regrets are met by forgiveness. They are also met by change. I  am not the same person that I was 2 months ago. Loss has an incredible way of stopping you in your tracks. Making you evaluate your character, and pointing out what needs changing. Benjamin's death has done, exactly that.

I hope to be someone that both my sons can be proud of. I know that I don't have to worry about Benjamin because he is being taken care of. God loves both my sons more than I ever could. My responsibility now, is for Jed. He is the one that is still here, in a world that is very much lost. Although I would have loved to see Benjamin grow up, it is a relieve knowing he will never have to experience any hurt, heartbreak, or loss. He has gone to a far better rest.

Loss has a funny way of showing you what's important. It often crosses my mind that this could be the last time I see my family. Our culture is so far removed from death, that when it happens, It's paralyzing. I imagine people in  other countries experience death all the time. How horrific it must be to see the people you love die around you because of hunger or disease. We however, don't share that same sentiment. I honestly never imagined that I would loose my son. Not because I din't think it could happen, i just didn't think it would. Now I recognize how truly fleeting our life is. The verse that says our life is but a myst comes to mind. So i hope I can make the most out of it. Not trying to change the world, become famous, or to have the most fun. I hope I make the most out of every minute, and everyday. Glorifying God, even in the everyday, mundane. In doing laundry, washing dishes, changing diapers, in every conversation, every car ride, and with everyone I meet. For the glory of God.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Happy Birthday Jed!



Happy Birthday to my sweet boy Jed! I can't believe he's one already. This whole year flew by for us. Even though at times the days seemed to drag on. People were right, the days are long but the years are short. So from now on we celebrate years, not months anymore (tear). It's amazing how much they grow, learn, change in a year. I still remember thinking he would never crawl and now he's getting ready to walk. I remember the first time he laughed. The first time he ate people food. When i first gave him cheerios and hoped he wouldn't choke. Now he scarfs down just about everything you give him. He's no longer my tiny little newborn, now he's my energetic toddler. Being a new mom has been an incredible blessing.

The biggest blessing (besides Jed), has been seeing people love Jed. When you allow people to just love you in whatever way they choose it's amazing! Sometimes it looks like advice, from put socks on him, to give him this to not make him gassy. Sometimes it looks like gifts, a lot of gifts. Sometimes it's babysitting. Sometimes it's hugs, or being excited to see him on Sundays. Often it's prayer. And it has been those prayers that have gotten us through the sleepless nights, the 3am feedings, the six (now 7) teeth, the diaper rashes, the I don't know why your crying cries, the oh so embarrassing tantrums, the what can he eat now questions. And it's those prayers that we are most grateful for. This comes at a bittersweet place in our lives, since we will be moving soon. The thought of Jed not knowing all these people, hurts. But I'm reminded through it all, of Gods undying faithfullness. Because He has always sustained us. I have no doubt that in this new season He will continue to do so. So I will continue to enjoy the people who have been so faithful and so loving. You have made all the difference! Thank you! Not only do we celebrate 1 year of life but we also celebrate you. For being right there with us.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Losing our son

I wrote a while back how we we're pregnant with our second baby, Benjamin. He was due June 24th, exactly a month before Jed's birthday. He came a little early on June 19th. We lost him just an hour after he was born. It's been nearly 3 weeks since Ben passed, but it still feels like just yesterday. Never in my life did I imagine this would happened. A part of me still feels like I will wake up tomorrow and still be pregnant.


I have learned that Control is an illusion that we have for ourselves. I replay Bens birth in my mind, over, and over. Thinking that I can change the outcome, wanting things to be different. I wonder if there is anything that we could have done. Then I'm reminded by my husband that there's not. God already knew. He's always in control. I remember him telling me something in the hospital that just pierced my heart. He said that Benjamin never really belonged to us, he was Gods all along. 


It doesn't make the hurt any less real but it gives me hope to know that Ben is with God. I don't say that casually or hoping that it's true. I say it knowing full well, that it's true. I'm still working through the sadness, the anger, the fear. People keep telling me I'm so brave for not curling up in a corner and dying, but the truth is, I don't feel brave. I feel like at any moment I can burst into tears. Like I'm just hanging in there by a thread. My heart feels broken. I keep wanting to feel normal, but I think that this is the new normal. I don't think the pain will ever go away. I think you just learn to live with. The pain I rivaled only by hope, by the full assurance that I will see Ben again in heaven.  

Saturday, April 26, 2014

Yard Sale Tips

One thing I really enjoy is a good yard sale!! I now go to them about 2-3 a month. There's a few things I wanted to share on what I consider to be a good Yard Sale. So here are my best tips. 
                              

    
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1. Remember why you're doing it. This is the most important tip! The purpose of a yard sale is to declutter your home. NOT, to make money, and not to turn it into a business. I hate yard sales that are a business for two reasons. 1. They're overpriced. 2. They're overpriced. I usually skip those houses anyways (we know who you are). 

2. Price accordingly. If you stay true to #1 then you will have no problem with this. Remember that what you're selling are things you no longer want!!! Junk, trash, no longer valuable. If you remember this, you will have an easier time letting go of things. Price for the 2nd cheapest price you are willing to let it go at. Then you will have room for hagglers (they're out there) or a better offer. 

3. Take the time to organize. I am more likely to stop at a well organized yard sale. I don't want to spend 30min looking through all of your family's clothes. Seperate everything into categories. 

4. Good signs. Bigger is better! You can't read an 8x11 sign from a car. Make sure you're signs are big and readable. Don't buy white signs and use yellow marker (it happens). Neon signs and BLACK marker is best. Don't write your address on the sign!! People are driving, they don't have time to process that much information. Arrows!!! 
*advertising on craigslist is great too!!

5. This is not your business time. So you sell Avon? Or something of the like. This is not the time to put it out there. I will skip the yard sales with the sales booth altogether. Even if you're not going to try to sell me something, I don't know that. It makes people move on. 

6. Feel free to sell food. The one thing I would recommend selling is water, doughnuts, snacks. Some people are up very early and get pretty hungry.

7. The early bird.... 
Yard sales are an early mans game. The earlier the better. Don't start putting your things out at 8am. Real yard sales are out before the sun comes up. 

8. You're not a sales man. This is not the time to practice your sale skills. An immediate red flag goes off when people try to sell me things. I go into this panick mode and I'm no longer interested in your things but I'm thinking of ways to get out of there. Just let people browse.

9. Do strike up conversation. Not to make a sale but just to talk. I am more likely to buy from someone who is friendly.

10. Have fun! Have friends and family help, have food, be friendly! Don't take it too seriously and you won't be disappointed if you don't make a ton of $$. Always remember that you want to get rid of this stuff. 

Happy Yardsale-ing! 

What are some of your best tips?